Negativity Upon Decision Making
By: Tamira Cummings
“Negativity and despair are like weeds; get them while they are small. If you let them grow, they just might take over.” Just one person who gives negative input can change anything from a small group of individuals to a heavily populated country. If I were to change my own negative mindset when making decisions, then maybe I can make a difference as well as have an impact of positive change on society.
Negativity is one of the biggest problems in today’s society, as it is my worst trait towards almost everything in my life. Every decision that I make clearly creates an impact on my life as well as other people’s lives whether that impact is a positive or negative one. I am not just negative when making my decisions, I become very selfish. To be honest, in my mind it is, “what will benefit me more?” I have created a negative attitude over the past few years as I had never truly experienced any good feedback or positive reactions towards decisions that I have made so far in my young life. I make stupid decisions because I get this sense of, “oh well, they hate me anyway so why not take the easy way out?” As one constantly feels as if their decisions will never produce the outcome they are searching for, that feeling is brought upon by a negative state of mind.
Being negative has been the most complicated trait that I have had to endure on a daily basis. The negative feelings in which I possess affects many aspects of my life, such as relationships. The stress of continuously arguing that feels as if one were a lost cause which leads to a great burden of lost hope, and a strain on various relationships.
Moreover, arguments in my case seem to worsen as time goes by. One simple conversation such as my grade point average with my counselor, leads me to have negative feelings towards the decision on how to end my senior year. My G.P.A. is lower than I had anticipated because of the decisions I had chosen to make in the three previous years of my education. I felt as if I was at war with myself saying, “Why would it matter now because I am so close to the advanced diploma, but even with straight A’s throughout this year I will still not make the cut.” As I thought it over, there were two pieces of myself that could not compromise. One part of my mind said, “You messed up and you failed yourself so why even bother trying your last year of high school as you have already proven failure.” The other part of my mind stated, “you failed, but take this opportunity to better yourself and prove to yourself that you can finish strong and give yourself the benefit of the doubt.” This struggle to fight for the better of myself had taken on a strong difficulty, but the better half of my mind was right, the positive side.
I still fight to stay positive, as having a negative attitude leads to the not so greatest part of myself. If I am constantly negative and I feel a sense of hopelessness then I will continue to have trouble making decisions. Also, the more negative I am towards a subject, will lead to more arguments that will begin to surface. My goals are to listen to any and all feedback as well as all scenarios before making any harsh or quick decisions. I also want to make sure that I do not blame others for the decisions that I choose to accept and follow through with; just because I want to do something does not mean others wish to do the same thing. Every decision one makes affects everyone and everything around the person making the choices. I do not like having my relationships with friends and family ruined by the decisions I make, but I will get into these moods where I get that “why bother” feeling. Negativity is like an addiction, a habit that is very hard to break.
Many individuals never fully realize the consequences of their actions. For example, the President of the United States may claim that there is no hope for the war in Afghanistan to end anytime soon in the close or distant future. Many Americans, especially military families, will find a great hardship upon losing any if not more family or friends in a war with no end in sight. If the President were to show no hope of the war ending soon, then some individuals will find a negative impact which will result in stress and hardships upon American citizens. If the president would have addressed the States with these words, it would send a sense of distress and depression to those who are a greater part of the situation which affects almost the majority of all Americans.
Furthermore, within society people tend to become more aggressive with their negative thoughts. Some people feel as if there is no hope towards a certain situation as they believe there is no change and therefore will be no change. People would begin to think negatively as they believe there is no free thinking or self-expression if one has only experienced negative outcomes and failure towards a decision. If more individuals were to express their thoughts positively, it would have a greater impact than if there were no negative thoughts. When people do not see eye to eye, it puts a great strain upon the people who love those individuals. If more people thought about how their reactions affected their loved ones and people who cared for them, then I believe that people will have some type of inspiration to stop fighting the positive and let good things happen even if those good things do not happen for a while. Everybody makes decisions that affect everyday life all around society; the secret to the believing in what is positive, is believing in what is possible.
The way that negativity impacts decisions made by others is a very great one. In society the more negativity one takes in, such as by a local or national news channel, affects the individuals who are participating in or watching the newscasts. As if being negative is a disease and everything bad that is put out into the air is ingested by those who watch, and those people will contract the negativity and release what they take in passing it along as they go on with their days. Negativity is like a contagion; once it is airborne it is almost nearly impossible to stop what was released into the air in the first place.
Negativity is one of the biggest problems in today’s society, as it is my worst trait towards almost everything in my life. Every decision that I make clearly creates an impact on my life as well as other people’s lives whether that impact is a positive or negative one. I am not just negative when making my decisions, I become very selfish. To be honest, in my mind it is, “what will benefit me more?” I have created a negative attitude over the past few years as I had never truly experienced any good feedback or positive reactions towards decisions that I have made so far in my young life. I make stupid decisions because I get this sense of, “oh well, they hate me anyway so why not take the easy way out?” As one constantly feels as if their decisions will never produce the outcome they are searching for, that feeling is brought upon by a negative state of mind.
Being negative has been the most complicated trait that I have had to endure on a daily basis. The negative feelings in which I possess affects many aspects of my life, such as relationships. The stress of continuously arguing that feels as if one were a lost cause which leads to a great burden of lost hope, and a strain on various relationships.
Moreover, arguments in my case seem to worsen as time goes by. One simple conversation such as my grade point average with my counselor, leads me to have negative feelings towards the decision on how to end my senior year. My G.P.A. is lower than I had anticipated because of the decisions I had chosen to make in the three previous years of my education. I felt as if I was at war with myself saying, “Why would it matter now because I am so close to the advanced diploma, but even with straight A’s throughout this year I will still not make the cut.” As I thought it over, there were two pieces of myself that could not compromise. One part of my mind said, “You messed up and you failed yourself so why even bother trying your last year of high school as you have already proven failure.” The other part of my mind stated, “you failed, but take this opportunity to better yourself and prove to yourself that you can finish strong and give yourself the benefit of the doubt.” This struggle to fight for the better of myself had taken on a strong difficulty, but the better half of my mind was right, the positive side.
I still fight to stay positive, as having a negative attitude leads to the not so greatest part of myself. If I am constantly negative and I feel a sense of hopelessness then I will continue to have trouble making decisions. Also, the more negative I am towards a subject, will lead to more arguments that will begin to surface. My goals are to listen to any and all feedback as well as all scenarios before making any harsh or quick decisions. I also want to make sure that I do not blame others for the decisions that I choose to accept and follow through with; just because I want to do something does not mean others wish to do the same thing. Every decision one makes affects everyone and everything around the person making the choices. I do not like having my relationships with friends and family ruined by the decisions I make, but I will get into these moods where I get that “why bother” feeling. Negativity is like an addiction, a habit that is very hard to break.
Many individuals never fully realize the consequences of their actions. For example, the President of the United States may claim that there is no hope for the war in Afghanistan to end anytime soon in the close or distant future. Many Americans, especially military families, will find a great hardship upon losing any if not more family or friends in a war with no end in sight. If the President were to show no hope of the war ending soon, then some individuals will find a negative impact which will result in stress and hardships upon American citizens. If the president would have addressed the States with these words, it would send a sense of distress and depression to those who are a greater part of the situation which affects almost the majority of all Americans.
Furthermore, within society people tend to become more aggressive with their negative thoughts. Some people feel as if there is no hope towards a certain situation as they believe there is no change and therefore will be no change. People would begin to think negatively as they believe there is no free thinking or self-expression if one has only experienced negative outcomes and failure towards a decision. If more individuals were to express their thoughts positively, it would have a greater impact than if there were no negative thoughts. When people do not see eye to eye, it puts a great strain upon the people who love those individuals. If more people thought about how their reactions affected their loved ones and people who cared for them, then I believe that people will have some type of inspiration to stop fighting the positive and let good things happen even if those good things do not happen for a while. Everybody makes decisions that affect everyday life all around society; the secret to the believing in what is positive, is believing in what is possible.
The way that negativity impacts decisions made by others is a very great one. In society the more negativity one takes in, such as by a local or national news channel, affects the individuals who are participating in or watching the newscasts. As if being negative is a disease and everything bad that is put out into the air is ingested by those who watch, and those people will contract the negativity and release what they take in passing it along as they go on with their days. Negativity is like a contagion; once it is airborne it is almost nearly impossible to stop what was released into the air in the first place.